You’re not a man if you can’t make woman orgasm during sex —Study

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Men who have sex with women feel happier
and more masculine if they are able to make
their female partners orgasm during sex , a
psychological study finds .
Women ’ s orgasms are increasingly seen as a
marker of a healthy sex life for women . They
have a strong effect on men who have sex
with women , too.
A study published in the Journal of Sex Research
explored different scenarios relating to a
woman ’ s orgasm and the resultant effect on a
man ’ s masculinity , to find just how important
women ’ s orgasms were to men .
A total of 810 men taking part in the study
were asked to imagine one of the following
scenarios:
Major success : The female partner always had
an orgasm during sex with him but had rarely
orgasmed with previous partners
Minor success: The female partner always had
an orgasm during sex with him and had often
orgasmed with previous partners
Minor failure: The female partner had not had
an orgasm during sex with him but had rarely
orgasmed with previous partners
Major failure : The female partner had not had
an orgasm during sex with him but had often
orgasmed with previous partners
There was a strong link between how
masculine the men said they would feel after
the imagined encounter , and with their sense
of achievement and sexual self - esteem .
The greater the success , the greater their
positive associations with it .
Equally , for the perceived ‘ failures, ’ the lower
their sense of masculinity , achievement and
self- esteem .
The study authors suggest that for highly
egalitarian men , women ’ s orgasms were
simply linked to a different view of
masculinity , that of success as a liberal,
egalitarian- minded man .
“ This may explain why men felt more
masculine after imagining that a woman
orgasmed during sex , ” the authors , led by
Sara Chadwick of the University of Michigan,
write in the paper .
“ Some men have stated that a woman ’ s
orgasm is one of their most sexually satisfying
experiences , describing feelings of confidence
and accomplishment in connection to female
partner orgasm occurrence , ” Chadwick says .
The importance of women ’ s orgasms to men
has been shown in other studies to have a
negative effect on women .
Many studies show that women feel pressure
to fake orgasms in order to prevent their male
partner from feeling that they are an
inadequate lover .
However, the flip side is that men ’ s self-
interest in giving women orgasms may well be
leading to many women having more
orgasms , the authors note ; adding that for
many men , the desire to give a woman an
orgasm is linked to a genuine interest and
investment in the woman ’ s pleasure .